Matt, the host of The Life Shift, came on to talk about losing his mom, perfectionism, learning new ways to grieve, and how having a podcast has been so validating. He goes through his journey of grief over a lifetime and how for so long he did what society expected of him. Now he has a different view on life and tries to share it every week.
Key Takeaways:
[1:20] Losing my mom at age 8 and no one around me talking about their grief
[5:02] Being perfect out of fear and grieving the things you didn’t get to do
[8:41] I didn’t have a safe place and lost all of the items I cared about
[11:49] I don’t really remember my mom and all the moving I did as a child
[14:05] Using my mom’s death as a crutch and doing what I was “supposed to” in life
[21:38] I feel like I’ve closed the door on grief with my mom
[22:56] My grandma dying and having a conversation with her about our grief
[26:47] Having a living funeral and saying the things you want to while they’re alive
[30:23] If my mom hadn’t died, I wouldn’t be this version of me
[32:26] My twenties was about doing what society expected of me
[33:21] In my thirties, I took a break, grieved on my terms, and did something scary
[32:35] Hearing other people’s struggles is validating
[41:56] The power of having control over someone else’s story
[46:02] Losing a pet is a grieving experience that shouldn’t be invalidated
[52:49] We don’t know what people are going through, meet them where they are
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