I’m quiet. I freeze. I don’t say no. My consent is violated again and again by numerous people in different situations that still follow me today. I did a deep dive on the types of consent, what it actually means, and why the meaning of it gets tricky for people. In this episode, I explore the different types of consent and how those have gone wrong in my life.
Key Takeaways:
[0:00] Saying the quiet part out loud and sexual assault
[4:11] I don’t defend myself or set boundaries
[5:47] Consent: voluntary, informed, mutual, respect personal boundaries
[7:35] Consent can’t be given under the influence
[9:34] I’m always cleaning up after others
[10:40] Expressed consent: an enthusiastic yes
[12:07] Implied consent can be dangerous
[12:54] Unanimous consent in politics
[14:11] My childhood abuse set my foundation for consent
[15:37] Consent violations in my friendships
[26:31] Molly’s death – I didn’t listen to my gut, I was just quiet
[28:50] What are the rights of marginalized communities?
[29:57] How do you give consent?
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