Intergenerational trauma is something that has plagued my family and I’m trying to change it, but it feels like a burden to bear. Growing up, having to keep secrets and not having my basic needs met has made me evaluate how that’s impacted my parenting today. I have many things to work through with many different types of therapies at my disposal, but it will take time to wade through this generational trauma.
Key Takeaways:
[1:22] Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs
[6:36] Physical safety in the hierarchy
[7:33] My emotional needs and trauma bonding
[8:19] Analyzing my past self and generational trauma
[14:13] Growing up the message was that women were less than men
[17:36] Hyper independence and people pleasing
[22:27] Having to keep secrets as a child was damaging
[25:00] Love and abuse in the family
[27:09] Passing on trauma to my children: nature or nurture?
[31:25] Giving our children what we didn’t have growing up
[32:40] How grief impacted my parenting
[34:57] Having issues with boundaries, hypervigilance, and intrusive thoughts
[36:29] I’m working to heal intergenerational trauma
[38:00] Medical side of psychology
[38:55] EMDR and how it helped me
[40:13] Somatic healing: how the mind and body connect
[44:09] Trauma causes growth
[44:38] People tell me I’m too honest about my story
[45:56] The process of wading through trauma
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